It is said that one of the best ways for women to have an orgasm during intercourse is by getting on top. Not only does it allow you to be completely in control of the thrusting, the speed, the tempo, and the depth in which your partner penetrates you, but it’s also a great way to feel both internal and external stimulation during P-in-V (or strap-on in V) fun.
Cowgirls also offers a variety of moves for you to test out when you’re on top: You can bob vertically up and down on your partner, pump your hips forward and backward, swirl them around and around for a truly all-encompassing ride, or even simply grind your clit into your partner’s pubic bone for a fast climax.
In fact, we recently heard of a *genius* trick that you just have to try during cowgirl… and that is spelling out the word “Coconut” with your hips as you’re riding your partner. The Twitter world—and sexperts alike—are convinced it’s a key way to get yours when you’re on top.
Plus, if you get bored of riding your partner face-to-face, you can always turn around and face their feet for reverse cowgirl. See? There are so many options for cowgirl sex.
But what if you’ve tried cowgirl 8 billion times and still never had an orgasm? Or what if you like it up there just fine, but want to mix it up? See below, friend.
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The Lusty Lunge
Can’t decide between deep penetration and a more clit-focused ride? Have both! One leg’s up, one’s down, and then simply rock your hips to toggle between both sensations. Lie flat-ish so you’re resting on your forearms for up-close intimacy and plenty of smoochery.
Go ahead and raise your arms, run your hands through your hair, and push out your chest as you pump yourselves to paradise. Make cowgirl incredibly satisfying by plopping a generous dollop of lube on your partner’s fingers and guiding their hand between your legs. If they keep a finger pressed on either side of your clit, they won’t even have to move it—each thrust will suddenly feel 200 times more amazing. (You can also slide a flat toy with low rumbly vibes, like the We-Vibe Sync, between your bodies, if you want.)
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The Slow Burn
Get on top, angling yourself so your clit is rubbing against their pubic bone because this will be where all the good feels happen. Don’t thrust, though. Instead, gently rock and rub against them as you please. They get to watch you have an orgasm while patiently building up their own. When you’re beyond sated, switch to something that will make them blow like a Roman candle. (See also: The Pinocchio, below).
If you desire even deeper penetration, put a pillow under their butt and they will magically gain two inches of length (since the give of the mattress usually takes an inch or two). Rest your hands on their chest, squat over them with your knees spread, and give them the view of their life. If you want to get some cardio in, try some short, fast bounces that’ll put them over the edge. This pairs well with a strong vibe or your plain ol’ fast-and-furious rubbing.
The Hot Chair
Sit them in an arm chair, get on top, swing your legs over the arms, then lean back, resting your hands on their thighs. That’s it! Your work here is done. They pump up from the bottom–the angle helps them rub against your top vaginal wall in a most enchanting way. And all while they get an ~*~amazing*~* view of you in all your glory.
The On-Top Ruler
Show your partner who rules this household. Have them sit on the edge of the bed, then place your knees on either side of their hips to straddle their lap. Use your hands on their shoulders to propel yourself up, down, and around as they worship your lower parts with all your favorite things: their hands, mouth, a buzzing toy, penis, or all of the above.
For a raw, super animalistic vibe, instead of straddling your partner, trying squatting and leaning back. Switch up the sensations by bringing your knees together, then apart, while your partner gets one hell of a view from laying down and facing you. For variations, let them move your legs or use a toy on you.
Instead of your partner lying down for reverse cowgirl, have them sit slightly up with their abs engaged and their hands behind their head for support. You lean over onto your hands—and yes, that is your butt in their face, thanks for asking—and hump away. They can also thrust up for a cowgirl/doggie-style hybrid, which gives you both the control of being on top and the deep penetration that is doggie.
Jill Hamilton writes the blog In Bed With Married Women. Follow her onTwitter.
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